CHILD CUSTODY SCHEDULESChild custody schedules, often referred to as parenting plans, follow a certain format. In general, schedules which are consistent, predictable, and offer regular access to both parents are generally best. Second, custody schedules which are developmentally appropriate are also the standard. 
Now for the exceptions. Every family is unique, so what is "normal" or "appropriate" or "best" child custody schedule for one family may not be a close match with another. Thus, it is important to have custody evaluations to assist with the decision making on the best interest of the child for custody and visitation.Infants & Toddlers This age group, starting with infants, usually requires a primary residence. However, this does not mean the child cannot tolerate overnight visits with the other parent. Much depends on circumstances such as nursing, sleep patterns, work schedules, etc., to establish a developmentally appropriate custody schedule. When both parents possess a great deal of child-rearing knowledge and are actively involved, having a plan that promotes both relationships to the greatest degree possible can be considered. Toddlers are dependent upon routine for the promotion of healthy development. It has been asserted in the research that overnights and separation from either parent for a block of 2 to 4 days is not harmful when used in custody schedules for toddlers. In addition, it offers the the opportunity for both parents to be involved in special moments with the child such as when they wake up, bathing time, the night-time routine and other activities in those unique overnight situations. However, this depends heavily upon the child's temperament, health and ability to adjust to different environments. Not every child benefits from this routine. School Age Children School age children benefit from routine, structure, and the anticipation of a schedule. Added to this routine are extracurricular activities such as who is responsible for pick-ups and drop-offs, who prepares meals and how weekends are shared. Shared custody schedules for this age group generally aim for a 50/50 share. Adolescents Adolescent custody schedules demand independence, autonomy and their own free time. These children do not want to be tied down to a custody schedule for their parents' sake. Developmentally, during this time period it is not unusual for boys to prefer spending more time with their fathers while girls prefer to spend more time with their mothers. Generally speaking, this is referred to as same-sex identification, but like all developmental growth, it occurs uniquely in each child and is a generalization, and not a rule. Good parenting is mindful of this and offers flexibility to benefit the children who may prefer a different schedule even when the agreed shared custody parenting plans are based on a near equivalent division of parenting time. |